We are like violins. We can be used for doorstops, or we can make music.

Every single one of us can do things that no one else can do – can love things that no one else can love. We are like violins. We can be used for doorstops, or we can make music. You know what to do.  –  Barbara Sher

Violin and bow.

old violin

I love so many things that the deluge often overwhelms me and I shut down. I love my husband and my sons.   I love the color of paint on my living room walls.  I love the coolness of the early autumn morning when I have to shut the window because I’m too cold.  I am almost too comfortable.  Like a violin swathed in it’s cozy velvet lined case, maybe I’ve become too comfortable with my surroundings.  I need change in my life to cause my strings to make music….no music in a vacuum, right?

Part of my cozy velvet case is having incubated Benjamin for the last six months.

We’ve been decidedly unsocial.  I see now that his reticence with strangers may have been headed off at the pass if I had gotten him out in the world earlier.  Or, maybe not.  I don’t feel like I’m the confident mother that I was with baby Sylas so long ago! I second guess everything now, maybe because I see how the choices I made with Sylas affected him and want to make sure that my choices affect Benjamin in a positive way.

So this incubation has also been desensitizing.  I feel, but not all of my feelings, and intuit, but not completely.  But now, I’m hungering for more.  I need to make music and not be a doorstop. Doorstops open the way for others, while making themselves immobile…maybe that’s the gist of the quote above that spoke to me.


a little inspiration

My favorite astrologer gave this song to us Geminis for the week. He says “As you face down the dangers of apathy, you could use the shot of courage and audacity they (the band singing) might provide”.   Here’s a pic of Rob Brezny – astrologer and spiritual warrior extraordinaire!

How much time is TOO much time with electronics?

The New York Times had a great series recently called “Your Brain on Computers” Check it out….

Link to all stories in the series here!

“Are your Facebook friends more interesting than those you have in real life?” is the first line in the article (“An Ugly Toll of Technology: Impatience and Forgetfulness”)

Well, given the fact that all my Facebook friends are real, live humans, I’ll never say that their Facebook images and posts are in ANY way superior or more interesting than their real selves.
Digital Devices Deprive Brain of Needed Downtime

Ahhhh, Downtime…I love downtime.  There are many benefits to daydreaming that I think help to counteract all the digital detritus.

  • Improved Creativity
  • Lower Blood Pressure
  • Boosts your mood
  • Brainstorming happens
  • Cement your values and beliefs

And most interesting to me:  “The Risks of Parenting While Plugged In”

How many of us have seen or BEEN the parent that talks on the phone while driving their kids around.  Or, like I’ve been known to do recently, letting my baby stay on the floor for way too long while I type away at the computer.